NweRonment !! Ours :)

"The poetry of the earth is never dead"- John Keats

How True....!!!!!

Early morning…waking up to the chirping of birds….a pleasant breeze….. surrounded by serenity….This is what most of us-“the city dwellers” thrive for.

What we get in contrast to this…..alarm buzzed mornings……hurried breakfasts…..newspapers…..even if few of us are lucky enough not to get caught in the fore mentioned scenarios…I mean those who wake up early….have a good walk or a good time getting absorbed in the surrounding calmness….to the sound of paperboys….milkwalas…..and get to listen to birds chirping(Rare !!!!)  Now is the acid test to “Patience”. Lucky are those who stay closer to office (but considering that….there are only few such people).Getting Stuck in traffic..thats a horrible start to one’s day…And once its time to leave home for office,many of us sulk thinking about traffic.And theres this saying “Sheher mein chand ya tare dikhayi nahi dete….kyunki sara asman dhool se bhar jatha hai….” Well its true….the smoke,pollution….you wouldn’t even like to stay on the roads for long.Only after most of the city sleeps the environment gets a respite from pollution.But how can we sit and watch stars after a tiring day’s work knowing that the next day we have to rush and try to maintain calm with the hustled life.That might be one of the reasons why  wildlife criteria dominates our favourite destinations.  

                                    Every morning and evening we find hundreds of people going for a stroll in the parks.Parks keep us in the presence of nature for sometime.A substitute for greenery lovers.I have seen many people constructing memories in parks.

Lets think for a moment.

Heres the little things we actually can do:

What are we doing to better our environment!?

Put garbage in the garbage cans and not litter everywhere.

Treat our roads as how we treat our homes.We wont spit,throw all garbage in our homes as we like.Do we!?

How are we educating people around us about what we can do to our environment?

We can actually tell our friends,family to follow few basic cleanliness rules and hygiene everywhere.

What are we getting by doing this?

Satisfacton.Yes,you are contributing a part to the society.A Change on the whole needs change in attitude.And you are part of the change.Infact you can be the initiator of change .Happiness reloads you with life.And a better environment for the future generations.

P.S: You need not always have advantages to be sorted out before doing something.Doing few things just because they are good and right makes all the difference. 

My Preparation for a PRESENTATION

So,One day I had to give a demo to about 10 people who were far experienced and were way too smart.Its my first time and I had to make it the best as "The first impression is the best " ...... I asked a friend and he helped me with few instructions.... Thanks Alex for helping me all the time..... I will tell you how the presentation went later on .....

1.Understanding is the key:
   a)Understand your audience first: This is utmost important.You need to know who are all the participants (it could be fresh users,existing users,managers & developers etc). Determine the ratio of new and experienced users if it's a mixture. If your software is for completely new requirement,then its simple- just imagine everyone as DONKEYS and explain. If not make to get the list of participants to understand the level of details you need in your explanations

   Your level of explanation could be of three types.
    Fresh Users:  Here intro is important.Explain important aspects of your application.Use more examples or relate it with previous applications.Imagine they are cute DONKEYS and teach them.            Experienced Users: Give a basic intro and explain the new  features in detail.
    Mixture: Here the managers could also be present along with the users.Remember managers are not interested in the details and how exactly something worked; they need a bigger picture and confidence that the product is stable, with all the requested functionality and ready to go live on time.They don't care how much effort you made etc.So if they are there,cover the above a little and send out a confident message that ALL IS WELL but keep your focus on the users.
b)Understand the expectation of audience: How important is this project? Is there a conflict of interest (like users don't like to use this application). If there is a discrepancy of what they expect and what you present,that might have an impact.
c)Read through the specs  thoroughly (in and out) so that you get the big picture clearly. If you are not able to remember,keep a printed copy handy so that you can refer anytime during discussion but avoid using it.
d)Know your time: Find out how much time is given to you and plan so that the gist of ppt is delivered at any cost.


2.The Flow:
a)Introduction: First ask them if the audio is clear and everyone can see your screen etc.
Wish them briskly.Explain the application's purpose, need, features etc and give them a very clear BIG picture.Channel your energy uniformly throughout the ppt.
b)Agenda: It is very important to shortly brief the overall flow of the demo. Like you saying :first I will explain the basic features of the application using PoerPoint slides along with some examples, next we will go to the online demo where I will show how to use the features, then I will explain on the benefits of the features and finally we shall have a 10 minutes Q&A. Please feel free to ask questions...etc...etc) something like this. Also you have to choose whether you like to have the Qs in between the ppt then and there or only at the end. Inform this to the audience.
c)Content: Now put some good tasty slides. Use only bullet points and short texts. Use some metaphor or analogy images. Images are great ingredient for a delightful presentation. Understandability is 70% more using images than text. that's the principal of marketing.I know you are fantastic verbally because you have excellent command on English, so no worries here. (Otherwise you better pep up your english :)) 
d)Online Demo: Identify and explain the critical and important scenarios which will be very useful for the users.
e)Q&A: This is like a video game. Invite for questions. Try to solve them asap so that everyone gets time. The more you score here,the more you will feel you are good.

While answering the questions, think from their perspective (not from your perspective). Answer even the silliest questions with clarity and patience. If they don't understand first time,try to explain with example (like relating to existing applications or using real time examples ) or from new angle everytime as one might help them understand. Invite them to mail you for clarifications and leave your mail ID in the final slide of ppt.

f)Closure: If you finish on-time, be proud of it and convey the same. If you dragged the time, then say sorry for delay so that you give them a feeling that YOU VALUE THEIR TIME. Say thank you and wish them for the day.

Tips:

1. It is important how you end the ppt than how you started. Coz the last 10 minutes stays in the audience’s mind and make sure they leave with a good feeling.

2. Three important things. KEEP IT COOL.  KEEP IT COOL. KEEP IT COOL.  ;)

3. KISS (Keep it simple stupid). Add varieties to your style of explanation. Be aware when you have to go in-detail and when you have to be short. Don’t go on and on about the samething, fix it and move on.

4. Add some good humor here and there

5. Time sense is important as a professional. Practice at least twice COMPLETELY alone.  Time the entire ppt. Keep a buffer time apart from Q&A as all the presentations doesn’t get over on time. If you finish on time 90% people will be happy. Test your screen options etc before you start.

In spite of all, YES things can go wrong. There don’t panic, relax and use your common sense., things will automatically be alright.  

All the best and good luck! :)

P.S. Whatever you do, you will always have a feeling that you could have done better. Don't worry as that feeling is completely alright and you will definitely get better with experience as this is only the first time. Just remember, with "INNER PEACE" you can do anything (the Kungfu warrior way :P)

A Story about two Friends : Lovely I would Say

Two-friends:

Good Morning Class, Today we have a new student among us, her name is Samyuktha" announced the class teacher "Samyuktha come here, introduce yourself to the class"

Samyuktha a 12 year old girl, with fair complexion skin and a neatly pleated hair on either side of her head was sitting in the one corner of the class.
She slowly got up from her seat. Each one of the student in class started staring at her. With all those stares, new faces, new city, new school, she was scared to death. She moved slowly to where her teacher was standing and faced the class with lowered head as if it were a punishment.

"Samyuktha introduce yourself to class. Why are you lowering your head?
Stand straight up. Don't waste the time of the class" said teacher somewhat sternly.
"My name is Samyuktha..I..I...I know no English much..i..i.." said samyuktha with a very feeble voice.
The whole class started giggling and started hush-hushing comments on Samyuktha. The teacher asked Samyuktha to go back to her seat hearing the commotion in the class and asked the class to be quite. Samyuktha almost had tears in her eyes. She was lost in her own world for the rest of the class.

During Interval she sat alone at her desk, looking at her book but not looking at the words but thinking about the world she left back in her small town, Varanasi. "Hi" said a voice. Samyuktha looked up to see a girl standing there. She was slightly dark complexioned, with a smiling face, and had hair exactly like Samyuktha's.
"I am Prachi, your classmate. Why are you not having lunch?" said prachi.
"a..umm..i not feeling hungry much." replied Samyuktha.
"Why not? Common I know you felt bad when the class laughed at you. Even I felt bad but don't care about them. If you don't eat, you will become sick.
Did you bring your lunch box?" said Prachi.

Samyuktha felt a sense of relief after hearing what Prachi said and started feeling hungry too.
"Yes I brought. Will you eat with me?"asked Samyuktha..

"Yes sure. Lets go outside and eat. We will have some fresh air" said prachi and took samyuktha's hand and went outside the class to a playground. Both sat and started eating together. They shared a bit of each others lunch too.
"so, you miss your old school..isnt it?" asked prachi.
"Yes a lot. I am from Varanasi. Daddy got transfer here. I got no admission here as my English is poor but daddy gave donation and I got admission..i will fail sure" said samyuktha sadly.
"Oh don't be sad Samyuktha. I will help you. You will learn everything easily. Where is your house?" asked Prachi.
"In Vasant Kunj, Phase-1" said Samyuktha. "hey even I stay in same place!"
said Prachi happily.
"Is it." Said Samyuktha gladly.
"Yes, now don't worry at all. We both can study together." Said Prachi assuring Samyuktha.
"Hey can I call you Samyu?" asked prachi..
"Yes sure, my friends in Varanasicall me with same name. I am happy" said Samyuktha with a glitter in her eyes. Thus the friendship between Prachi and Samyuktha started in the 6th standard/grade which grew manifold during the years to come.
Samyuktha had an intelligent mind which needed some shining and polishing whereas Prachi was a creative person. Samyuktha and Prachi became best friends during their first year together itself. They were totally inseparable. Due to them, both the families of Samyuktha and Prachi too became good family friends. Samyuktha just about managed to clear her 6th grade but later with Prachi's support she became more and more confidant.
Prachi used to force Samyuktha to be a flamboyant and aggressive in school activities which boosted Samyuktha's inner confidence. Samyuktha overcame all her inhibitions within few years. Prachi was very jovial and used to crack jokes which Samyuktha cherished. The whole class used to be jealous of their friendship. Samyuktha and Prachi both excelled with good marks in their 12th standard and both got admission in B.tech in DelhiUniversity.

Through all these years Samyuktha became very outgoing person. She was now no more the person which she was 6years ago. She became a smart, stylish and trendy by the time she turned 18. Prachi on the other hand remained same.
Prachi still doted on Samyuktha and was very possessive about her. Samyuktha started drawing lot of attention in college. Due to her looks and attitude, boys went crazy for her on the other hand Prachi was not at all approachable and she hardly cared about her looks. Samyuktha started loving the attention showered on her from her B.tech classmates. She participated in a fashion parade in College's annual function and with that she became an instant hit through out the college. Prachi always used to pull back Samyuktha to the ground and asked her not to neglect her studies. Other than Prachi, Samyuktha started having her own circle of friends in college. When Prachi and Samyuktha were together, Samyuktha's friends used to talk to her but didn't give much attention to Prachi. Samyuktha did try to mingle Prachi with her other friends but Prachi didn't show much interest. There were lot of times when Samyuktha bunked her classes and Prachi used to make a copy of notes for Samyuktha too. As Samyuktha became more and more involved in other activities of college rather than studies, Prachi became too much involved with her academics and had very few friends or one can say acquaintances other than Samyuktha. During 2nd year of B.tech, Prachi and Samyuktha started having some arguments and fights. Samyuktha wanted to enjoy the college life with fun and being naughty sometimes. Prachi on the other hand didn't approve with Samyuktha's thinking.


It was during 3rd year of college when Aakash, the 4th year B.tech student entered Samyuktha's life. He was supposed to be the most handsome guy of the college. Aakash had the looks of a model with a very sexy voice due to which he used to compere most of the college shows. Aakash came in touch with Samyuktha through some common friends and instantly fell in love with her.
Samyuktha, was on top of the world when she came to know about Aakash's feelings. With Samyuktha and Aakash's love affair going strong, Prachi distanced more and more from Samyuktha. Prachi hated Aakash to the core and blamed him for ruining the friendship between her and Samyuktha. Samyuktha who was blind in love, didn't understand the feelings of Prachi. During 3rd and 4th year of college, Samyuktha and Prachi rarely used to spend together.
Going to each others homes became almost null. Samyuktha started suspecting Prachi to be jealous of her on the other hand Prachi used to miss Samyuktha and longed for her to be like her old school friend.

One day during the 4th year of her college, Prachi was alone in her room and was crying looking at the old photos and greeting cards which she got from Samyuktha for different occasions.
"Prachi what happened? Why are you crying?" asked Prachi's mom with worried look.
"Nothing..its just that" said Prachi trying to wipe of the tears from her cheeks.
"Kya hua beta..something wrong in college?" said Prachi's mom With that Prachi hugged her mom and started sobbing.
"arey arey..what is this..i never saw you crying this way..tell me what happened..did Samyuktha say something to u?" asked Prachi's mom. Prachi's mom observed the growing distance between Prachi and Samyuktha but she never talked about it with Prachi.
"mom..why do people change in college..why do we get old..school days used to be so good" said Prachi between her sobs.
"beta..thats life..there's a saying "the only thing which remains constant is change"..you are not a small girl now..you should understand this..going to college, getting married, getting career, getting old..all this is part of life..you should learn to accept this.."said Prachi's mom caressing p's hair.
"No I will never marry in my life for sure. I cannot accept tha some outsider comes and changes other relationships in life. I will not let that happen to my life" said Prachi strongly.
Prachi's mom chose not to argue with her at that time and hoped time will change her attitude towards life.

"Mom you know this year Samyu forgot to wish me on my birthday. Since that Aakash came into her life, nothing else is important to her. And tomorrow its her birthday and I don't feel like wishing her either" said Prachi

"Why not..thats wrong..you should wish her..if you don't wish her there wont be difference between you and her. May be after u wish she will realize her mistake. You should atleast give a try to revive your old friendship." Said Prachi's mom convincing Prachi to call Samyuktha.
When clock struck 12, Prachi decided to call Samyuktha and dialed her mobile number. Her mobile was engaged. She tried calling 3-4 times more but still her line was busy. When it was almost 12:30 A.M she thought of calling her landline but she held back fearing everybody at her home might get disturbed. Prachi knew that Samyuktha might be busy talking with Aakash and hated him more. Next day Samyu didn't turn up at college either. After college, she went straight to Samyuktha's house with a greeting card and a small painting which she herself did. Samyuktha was not at home as well, when confronted with her parents..
"Hey Prachi, Samyu is not with you?" asked Samyukhtha's mom.
"uh...No..Infact I came here to wish her" said Prachi "She said she will go with you to Aakash's home. Aakash is leaving to US today. She said she will see him off to the airport and that you will accompany her" said samyuktha's mother with a angry tone.
"hmm oh, actually I was late to college today..may be that's why she went alone" said Prachi knowing that Samyuktha would have definetly not taken her along to meet Aakash and that she simply bluffed her parents. "Anyway aunty, once she comes, give her this card and gift" continued Prachi.
On the way back home Prachi felt happy that Aakash is leaving Indiabut at the same time felt bad that she was not able to wish Samyuktha personally.
Next day in the college, Prachi was eagerly waiting for Samyuktha to come.
She wanted to see how she reacted for the card and gift. As soon as Samyuktha entered the class, everybody in the class started wishing her belated birthday greetings. Many of them showered gifts to her. She greeted them all with a sad smile. Prachi guessed it must be because Aakash left to US. After that Samyuktha came to Prachi with a serious expression on her face..
"So, you must be very happy now?" said Samyuktha.
Prachi was puzzled, but then she immediately remembered that her parents might have caught her lying to them. "Samyu I had no idea about your plan yesterday" said Prachi with innocent look.
"Oh don't be so innocent Prachi. The whole class knew I was with Aakash yesterday.
Since last 5 months you never came to my house. Suddenly you came home yesterday to spoil my day. That was your plan" accused samyuktha

Prachi was shocked with Samyuktha's behavior and was almost in tears "No, what wil I gain with this Samyu. You are my only friend. I tried calling you day before yesterday night to wish you at 12 but your line was constantly busy. Yesterday nobody informed me about your plan."
"C'mon Prachi. I know how much you are jealous of me since I met Aakash.
Prachi you should go and get some life. I never thought that you would come down to such cheap tricks. Thanks to you my parents have stopped trusting on me" said Samyuktha and left the class fuming.
Prachi stood there with tears and embarrassed with all the stares towards her in the class. The whole class saw what happened between Prachi and Samyuktha. After that incident almost everybody stopped talking to Prachi.
Prachi remained aloof from everybody even outside the college. She remained to her self and kept herself busy with studies. After 6 months, college was over and since then Prachi and Samyuktha never met.

Soon after graduation Prachi started searching for jobs and almost immediately she was placed in TCS, Bangalore. Prachi didn't knew what happened to Samyuktha and didn't care to find out. She moved to Bangaloreimmediately and took an apartment all by for herself. She lived alone. In office she used to talk with others when only it was required for work. She was not friendly with anybody. She used to eat alone in the office canteen. Everybody in the office used to call her with different names like 'sadist', 'psycho','poor thing'..etc etc. Life went on.
2 years later, one fine day early in the morning at around 7:00 AM Prachi heard the door bell. She looked at her watch and wondered who would be ringing the bell at this time. She just got up to get ready for the office.
She went and opened the door to see a young man standing there with a small bowl in his hand. He was about 6 feet height with curly hair and lean figure and good features. Prachi looked at him with red face.

"Hi..umm..i am Mayank, your new neighbor" said Mayank.
"So...."said Prachi with irritation.
"I am sorry, actually I came to borrow some sugar. I moved in this apartment today morning. I have the habit of drinking tea early in the morning..so if you plz don't mind can u plz lend some teaspoons of sugar" said mayank with pleading eyes.
"So..for your tea..you disturb other people early in the morning" said Prachi and started closing her door.
'Plz plz plz don't close the door..if I don't have tea in the morning I get sick.. I tried many other doors, but only you opened it..plz ' pleaded Mayank once again.
Prachi closed the door on the face of Mayank and he stood there stand still for a minute and started moving to his apartment when he heard the click of the door open from his behind. He looked back to see Prachi standing there with Sugar bottle in her hand.
"Hey..thank u so much..errr...i thought..u got angry...u saved my life..u know"
said mayank gladly.
"How many teaspoons do u want?" said Prachi seriously ignoring the excitement of Mayank.
"umm..oh..umm..2 spoons" said Mayank somewhat embarrassed.
Prachi took 2 teaspoons of sugar and poured it in the bowl of Mayank and without a word went back inside the home closing the door behind.
"Thank you" said Mayank to the closed door!
Prachi got ready for the office and left the home exactly at 8.45am as she used to do daily. Her day in the office went on as usual and at one instance while having tea she remembered the early morning incident. She realized she doesn't even remember the face of the guy clearly.
Back at the home at around 8pm she heard her door bell ringing again. When she opened, she realized it's the same morning guy standing outside.

"Now what??" said Prachi again irritated.
"Actually I bought the sugar in the afternoon...so thought of giving you back your 2 spoons of sugar which u gave me......" said Mayank with little naughtiness in his eyes.
"Whaaaat" said Prachi with disbelief.

"Here your 2 spoons of sugar" said mayank again bringing the small bowl in his hand towards her.
"Godddd..wait...here" said Prachi and closed the door. She went back inside the home to her kitchen and came back with Sugar bottle. When she opened the door, Mayank was still standing there waiting for her.
"Here now put that sugar inside this bottle" said Prachi handing over the bottle to Mayank.
Mayank pours down the sugar in the bottle.
"Ok..Anything else?" Said Prachi with an angry tone.
"Nope..thats it..thank you for lending me sugar in the morning..otherwise I would have been dead by now" grinned Mayank "Its ok. Goodnight!" said Prachi somewhat mellowing down and closed the door.

Prachi felt amused by the behavior of Mayank and the fact that he came to return back the two spoons of sugar.
"Was he trying to impress me" thought Prachi..."Anyway good, I didn't give him any kind of that impression..now he will never approach me again"
Next day after coming back from work, again her door bell rang. Prachi somehow suspected it must be Mayank again and she was right.
"What??" Said Prachi hardly opening the door enough.
"umm..i am sorry...umm..to disturb u again..actually I need to make an urgent call to my parents in Bombay. I don't know why but my mobile is not activated yet. So, can I please make a call from your phone?" asked Mayank.
"Good lord..there are thousand PCO's outside this apartment..why don't u go and call from there?" said Prachi annoyed.
"Actually there's only one PCO nearby and today that is closed due to ID festival..i went and enquired and the next one is 3kms from here..well it was urgent..otherwise I am sorry I wouldn't have disturbed you" said Mayank with pleading eyes again.
"huh..wait I will bring my mobile.." said prachi and closed the door behind , again to come back with her mobile.
 Mayank takes the fone and moves little far away from her. Prachi stands there for a while and then goes back inside the home, with door almost closed. After a short while she hears a knock on her door.
"Thank you so much..i cant tell you..how grateful I am today..had it been not your Mobile..i would have not known that in khichdi I need to add 3 glasses of water for 1 cup of rice.." said mayank happily "Whaatttttt...your urgent call was about khichdi???" said Prachi somewhat angrily.
"umm..yaa...u know..i love the khichdi which my mom makes..so..anyway..here take this 10rs for the STD call" said mayank handing over a 10 rupee note to Prachi.
Prachi takes 10Rs note without a word and hopes not to create any good image of herself in front of him.
"Hey thanks a lot..for everything Prachi" said Mayank "How do you know my name?" said Prachi with surprise.
"Well you wrote Prachi on your Mobile's screen" smiled Mayank.
"Ok..goodnight" said Prachi and closed the door.
"There is something peculiar with this man..." thought Prachi again. Through out that day and next day Prachi kept thinking about Mayank and felt bad that he was coming again and again in her thoughts. She tried her best to remind herself that she should not fall into any kind of distractions in her life. There is no place for a man in her life.
Till next couple of days she never met Mayank but he never went out of her mind. She was angry that she was thinking about him how much ever she tried avoiding. One day again in the evening she heard her door bell. She was in kitchen cooking dinner for herself and when the door bell rang, she ran into the bathroom to comb her hair neatly and then went to open the door .
"Hi" said Mayank with his ever charming smile.
Prachi making sure that she is not pleased seeing him asked him with monotonous tone " yes, what do u want now?"
"nothing..today I came to give you something?" said Mayank.
 "well you have given me money for the call you made from my fone last time..now what?" said Prachi

"not that..today I made gajar ka halwa and it came out really well..so came here to share with you some" said Mayank bringing his hand forward from behind with a box.

Gajar ka halwa was Prachi's favourite sweet dish but she resisted from showing any kind of positive emotion.
"see mayank..i don't know what you think about me..but I don't like such gestures from anybody..i hardly know you..as a neighbor I helped you ..thats all..dont expect anything else...do u understand that?..now you can leave.."
said Prachi fighting back her inner emotions.

Mayank stood there like a rock for a minute .
"sorry Prachi..i don't consider you just as a neighbor but as a friend in need..but ..but..i respect your privacy..today is my birthday...I don't know anybody else in this city..so thought to share this halwa with the first person I came to know in this city..anyway I wont disturb you again" said Mayank and started to leave.
After hearing that its his birthday, Prachi felt a guilt pang and stopped him "hello..wait..umm..i am sorry..i didn't know its your birthday..Happy Birthday" said Prachi loudly.
"Thank you" said Mayank turning back to look at her.
"Well, can I taste your Halwa..ofcourse if you are not mad at me" said Prachi with a smile for the first time.
Mayank was surprised to look at her beautiful smiling face for the first time and was smitten.
"Heyyy..no..not at all.." said Mayank and gave her the box he brought.
Prachi opened the box and tried some with her hand.
"ummm..it tastes great" said Prachi licking her fingers "can I keep whole of this box."
"oh sure.. that was for you anyway.." said Mayank "I guess I should be leaving now".
"Ok..will return the box tomorrow..by the way happy birthday again" said Prachi.
"umm..u know what..i was lying..its not my birthday" said Mayank and before Prachi could say anything, he ran back upstairs to his apartment.
Prachi stood there in disbelief but later smiled at herself thinking how easily she got fooled. She somehow didn't feel mad at Mayank later and relished the halwa.
As usual Mayank's magic lingered on Prachi for that day and next day. When it was time to return the box to Mayank, Prachi questioned herself whether to go or not to go to his house to return the box. Finally she decided to listen to her heart and braced herself to go to Mayank's house.
She pressed the door bell of Mayank's house and waited for few seconds when Mayank opened the door.
He had a big cutlery spoon in one hand and was wearing an apron.
"Hey, what a correct timing..can u plz taste my rajma curry and let me know if everything is ok?" saying this Mayank left her at the door went towards his kitchen.
Prachi was standing at the door steps unable to decide whether to go in or not. "Prachi...come in..where are you" shouted Mayank from his Kitchen.
Prachi stepped in the house and realized that this was the first time since she came to Bangaloredid she stepped into anybody's house. She noticed, the house was clean and neat, had decent furniture and she could listen some soft soothing music from the speakers somewhere. Prachi walked slowly towards the kitchen. Mayank was ready with some rajma in a small bowl and asked her to taste it.
"ummm..its nice...everything is ok..." said Prachi after tasting the Rajma "oh good...see my mom doesn't believe that I am good cook..i will have to make you talk to her one day...then only she might believe" said Mayank feeling satisfied.
"Ok, I will leave now" said Prachi.
"Why?..i have prepared dinner for both of us." Said Mayank.
"What....?" Said prachi.
"Well I knew you would come home to return my box today and obviously you will come little early..and also I am sure you would not have got time to cook dinner by now" said Mayank while putting plates on the dining table.
"How were you so sure that I would come?" asked Prachi amused.

"Well I can read People's mind..after all I am a Psychiatrist" said Mayank "Psychiatrist!!" exclaimed Prachi.
"ya why?..cant handsome men become psychiatrists?" said Mayank naughtily.
"aha..i didn't mean that" smiled Prachi "I don't know if you are lying or telling truth..yesterday you were saying it was your birthday..now today you are saying you are a Psychiatrist!"
"no..seriously..i am a Psychiatrist..i don't lie on Wednesdays..u know" said Mayank.
"uh..u r impossible..anyway what made u believe that I will have dinner with you" asked Prachi "Well, today is my birthday..and I knew you wont be able to say no" said Mayank.
"What..plz..you think I can be fooled twice?" said Prachi "ha ha..see I was born on 6th aug and today its 6th nov ..so its my monthly birthday" said Mayank showing her the seat to sit.
Prachi and Mayank laughed together and started having dinner together.
Mayank was indeed a good cook and Prachi liked everything prepared by him..no not only the food..but she realized she liked Mayank's charming nature.
"So, what made you come to Bangalore?" asked Prachi having her sweet dish.
"I saw that this city had lot of scope for doctors like me..so I choose this place for my practice" said Mayank.
"Scope!" exclaimed Prachi
"yeah..you see..Bangaloreis a software hub for India..and hence more patients for me" said Mayank with a naughty smile again.

"aha..so you mean software engineers are mad people?..Mister..Even I am a software engineer..remember that!" said Prachi.
"Oh..is it..i never knew that beautiful gals too are becoming software engineers" said Mayank flirtingly.
Prachi wanted to reply him back and suddenly realized that Mayank was complementing her and gave him a smile.
"thanks" said Prachi blushing.
"thank god..you understood that" said Mayank with a twinkle in his eyes.

While Prachi was about to leave his house after dinner. Mayank asked "So at what time should I come for dinner tomorrow at your house?"

"what?" said prachi and stared at him questioningly.
"yeah..you are a self-respect girl right..i know you will return my dinner!!" said Mayank again with his flirting smile.
Prachi couldn't stop smiling and said "hmmm..smart..haan..come at 8pm..dinner will be ready."
After coming home , thoughts of Mayank and whatever they talked lingered in Prachi's mind. She looked herself in mirror a thousand times. All her life never did any guy talked to her the way, Mayank talked. She realized she smiled and laughed so many times on that single day. Mayank did some magic on her.
Next day she was not able to concentrate in her office work too. She was too busy thinking what she should prepare for dinner and what all she need to buy to prepare food. She even tried searching some recipes on the internet.
She left office early at 5 pm and went to grocery store to buy all vegetables and groceries to prepare dinner. She decided to make Jeera rice, Palak Paneer, Cabbaga kofta, rotis, fruit salad and lassi. She finished off everything by 7:30 and cleaned the kitchen and dining hall. She realized she never cooked so fast earlier. She dressed herself in one of her best casual salwar suits and waited for him. Exactly at 8pm her door bell rang. She wanted to run and open the door but she resisted and took some time to open.
Mayank looked handsome as ever. He wore a short kurti and jeans and looked cute.
"Wow you look wonderful" said Mayank.
"Thanks. Come in." Said Prachi blushing.
Mayank stepped into her house for first time and was soon impressed.
"You did all those paintings?" asked mayank looking at big canvas paintings in her hall.
"Hmm..yeah..i do it for my timepass" said Prachi.
"Oh man...they don't look like timepass paintings Prachi..these are master pieces!!" said Mayank who kept gazing at those beautiful paintings.
"Oh please...I am not a trained painter..thanks anyway..come lets have dinner"
said Prachi.
When Mayank saw what all she prepared, he said "sorry for giving you trouble!"
"No its fine. Cooking for one person extra is not a trouble" said Prachi while serving food in his plate.
"Don't say that otherwise I might come everyday" said Mayank.
Prachi wanted that to happen everyday. She never felt so happy after a long time. Throughout the dinner, Mayank kept on praising her food and she got more and more attracted to Mayank's charm. After dinner they talked for long time. Mayank kept making jokes and Prachi laughed non-stop. Prachi never realized when it was already 11:30pm.
Mayank suddenly looked at his watch and realized it was late. "Hey ..sorry..its late..i should leave..you have to get up early to the office again tomorrow" said mayank and got up to leave.
Prachi didn't want him to leave and wanted to stop him for some more time.
"yeah..it was ...it was nice having you here today" stammered Prachi.
"really?" said Mayank
"yeah...u know..i never smiled and laughed this much before Mayank. You brought something back which I lost long time ago." Said prachi, her eyes were almost in tears.
Mayank kept looking at her for sometime.
"so where is my fees?" said mayank.
"Fees??" questioned Prachi.
"yeah for bringing back what u lost!" said Mayank.
"aha..so I am your first patient it seems...tell me whats urfees, I will give you" said Prachi with a smile.
"ummm...lets see..umm" said mayank making a thinking gesture "how about one more dinner, this time somewhere outside"
"done" said prachi almost immediately.
"wow...that's an improvement ..i thought you would me hit" said Mayank laughing.
And then for coming weeks they were inseparable. They met almost everyday for dinner. Mayank and Prachi were madly in love with each other but never expressed it to each other. Prachi started smiling more and more and became more communicative in office with colleagues. All her colleagues were surprised to see the change in her behavior. She even started taking care on what she was wearing and how she looked.

One day in a restaurant, Mayank seemed little restless.
"What happened to you today?" asked Prachi.
"Actually I wanted to tell you something..dont know how you will react!"
confessed Mayank.
Prachi suspected that he might propose her and felt little nervous deep beneath her heart but was still waiting for this moment since long.
"Its ok Mayank..tell me...since when did u get so nervous in front of me?"
said Prachi.
"hmm..its not nervousness but..i don't want you to hate me after what I will tell you" said Mayank.
"Now...plz..dont keep me in suspense!!" requested Prachi not able to keep bear the excitement.
"Actually, few days back I read a article in a newspaper. There is going to be a painting exhibition for new talents in Mumbai. That's going to be conducted by Tina Ambani, wife of Anil Ambani of Reliance Industries.
Without your permission I sent your name and one of the photos of your painting. Today I got a reply from Tina Ambani herself and she is pleased with your painting and want that to be exhibited. I know you are going to be mad at me now but Prachi I want the whole world to know your talent" said Mayank holding one of the hands of Prachi.

Prachi listened to all with complete silence. She didn't knew how to react.
She was expecting something else. She was in love with Mayank but with what Mayank told her, she could not hold back her tears. Tears rolled over her cheeks and she couldn't speak.
"uh..oh..sorry Prachi..i dreaded this..i didn't want to hurt you..Your paintings were so impressive, that I felt it should not confine just within four walls of your home. I guess I should have asked you before. I am sorry again" said Mayank with guilty.
"uh..no no..dont say sorry Mayank..its just that..i never thought you cared about me so much..i never realized that you felt my paintings were worth sending to an exhibition...i..i..am surprised ...but I don't think I am worth it....i do it for my own pleasure.." said Prachi with chocking voice.
Mayank holding her hand tight "I already told you this before..your painting are master pieces and now the response from Tina Ambani herself tells you what you are worth of. Prachi you should learn to be proud of your own talent..you really don't know what you are worth of..."
After a 2 minutes of silence. "I don't know Mayank..how to thank you for all this...how will I be able to return the favour" said Prachi.
"The fact that you are not mad at mr after hearing this, is itself a big favor" said Mayank smiling "And the by the way, there would be competition too in that exhibition and whoever wins, will get a sum of Rs 5lakhs and a contract to do the painting of Reliance's New office in Mumbai."
"oh is it...that sounds interesting..i hope you wont ask 5lakhs in return of favour" said Prachi teasingly.
"ha ha..may be" said Mayank.
Mayank took care of logistics of sending Paintings to Mumbai. All 5 of her paintings were selected for exhibition. Prachi and Mayank both went to Mumbai together on the day of the opening of the exhibition. There were total of 25 paintings altogether. Prachi was nervous to talk to Tina Ambani but Mayank stood beside her and gave his support. Prachi and Mayank could notice that Prachi's painting caught most of the attention from viewers.
Prachi and Mayank spent that day in Mumbai doing shopping and sight-seeing.
She couldn't believe she was with Mayank for whole day. They were hardly in their hotel rooms and were roaming around till 2 am midnight. When they came back to their hotel, they were both tired and dozed of almost immediately in their respective rooms. They returned back to Bangalorenext day by early morning flight. Exhibition was held for 2 more weeks and results were out the last day. As expected Prachi's paintings won the first place.

Mayank was ecstatic with the news and Prachi was more pleased to see Mayank happy than winning the actual award. Calls didn't stop pouring in Prachi's phone that day. Her office was proud of her after hearing the news. Prachi's parents were both surprised and felt on top of the world.
While they both were on flight to Mumbai to receive the award.. Mayank whispered in Prachi's ears "Prachi when we will go back to Bangalore, I will ask you to return my favour"
Prachi looked surprised and said "I will be pleased"
The award ceremony went on very well. Prachi had to speak few words on the stage after receiving the award and she was very nervous about it but one look at Mayank and words flew from her mouth smoothely. She became a celebrity overnight. It was one of the memorable days ever for Prachi and now Prachi was looking forward to what Mayank would ask her after returning to Bangalore.
Mayank asked her to come home for dinner the day they returned. Prachi was on cloud 9 and she was sure that Mayank would propose her. She looked forward for the evening and got ready on time. She looked in the mirror some 100 times before making sure she looked perfect. Sharp at 8pm she went to Mayank's home and rang the bell.
Mayank opened the door and stared at her.
"Oh my god..dont do this to me!" said Mayank.
"What did I do?" said Prachi surprised.
"You look ravishing..what if I get heartattack? I am just a psychiatrist not a cardiologist" said Mayank again with his flirting smile.
Prachi blushed and felt shy.
Mayank took her hand and made her sit on the sofa. Mayank sat on the small chair beside her still holding her hand.
Mayank stared at her for a minute and said "actually I have two things to ask from you Prachi"
"And what are those?" said Prachi, her hands going numb.
Mayank took a deep breath.
"Prachi I want you to forgive Samyu..i mean Samyuktha" said Mayank.
Prachi didn't understand what was Mayank talking about for a second and later got shocked.
"Yes your friend Samyuktha, Prachi" said Mayank.

Prachi took back her hand which Mayank was holding and stared at him with thousand questions in her mind. Mayank looked away from her and stared behind her. Prachi didn't understand where he was looking and turned to the direction where he was looking. Samyuktha was standing there behind her.
Prachi got shocked looking at her after all these years.
"Prachi..hi...how are you?...." said Samyuktha slowly.
Prachi looked back at Mayank.. "So you knew me from before hand..and all this was one big drama?" said Prachi with anger.

"See Prachi..yes I knew you ..but all this is not a drama...don't get me wrong...i..." said Mayank when Prachi cut him in mid-sentence and left his home in rage without looking back.
Mayank ran for her but Prachi didn't let him in her house. She closed the doors and went to her bedroom weeping. Mayank tried calling her mobile, but she kept it off. Mayank tried knocking her door many times but she didn't budge from her bedroom. The whole night Prachi kept reeling back to the time she met Mayank for first time, how she spent time with Mayank and felt sad that all that was a drama. He did it all for Samyuktha not because he liked her. She hated Samyuktha for coming back in her life again. Everything was so beautiful till yesterday. She ruined everything again.
She slept sobbing in her bedroom and didnt know when it was already 9am in the morning. She realized she had headache and called her office to tell she will be on leave. She noticed a letter near her main door. She knew it must be from Mayank and didn't touch it for long but kept looking at it. After few hours passed she decided to read it. It was not from Mayank but from Samyuktha.
Dear Prachi,
I know you are still very angry with me. And I know I deserved it. Prachi I cam here all the way from US just for you. After leaving college, I soon went to US for higher studies and later married Aakash. Life was rosy for few years but I realized I lost all my friends. Even after marriage Aakash kept in touch with his old school friends but I didn't had any genuine friends. The one genuine friend I had, I broke her heart. I wanted to get in touch with you again but was afraid of your reaction. I tried contacting your parents in delhiand they said you left Bangalore. They told me how much you have changed and distanced yourself from everybody even with your own parents. Then I realized I am the reason behind it. Prachi when I was in college I was naïve and was drawn to all attentions. I didn't understand what was right or wrong. When I was in school, you helped me to come out of my shell and later you went into the same cocoon because of me. You don't know how bad I felt later when I realized my mistake. I wanted to repent for everything I did and wanted to bring back that old charming Prachi.

Mayank is school friend of Aakash. I met him when i visited Indialast time and became good friends. When Mayank decided that he wanted to go to Bangalorefor his medical practice, I told him about you. I asked him if its possible for him to get in touch with you. I took your address from your parents and luckily Mayank got a flat for rent in your apartment. Mayank kept telling me about you whenever he met you. I realized you have changed a lot and felt guilty. Mayank and I decided to tell you about me when the right time comes. Prachi, Mayank likes and respects you a lot. Being a psychiatrist he knew you are not the person you were projecting. He wanted to bring out real you and I was happy that what I couldn't do, atleast he can do that and did that.
Prachi I am leaving to Delhitoday by 5pm flight. I want to say sorry to you again in person though its ok if you don't forgive me. And one more thing, if you want to hate me still, its ok, but don't hate Mayank. Whatever he did was not because I asked him to do but he himself wanted it to do. I primarily wanted to be in touch with you through Mayank, nothing else. I am not sure if you will forgive me or not but I want to say Sorry for one last time.
Love
Samyu.
Prachi read that letter for 10 times and tear swelled from her eyes. At 4'o clock she decided to go to Airport. She reached airport by 4:30 and saw Samyu there. Samyu was overwhelmed with joy when she saw prachi. As Prachi came near she swung and hugged her with tears.
"I knew..i knew you would come" said Samyuktha

"How wouldn't I ..i wanted to hear a sorry from you" said Prachi with tears.
"I am so so so so sorry Prachi..you don't know how happy and relieved I am after all these years..." said Samyuktha.
"Me too...and...I want to say thank you!" said prachi "Thank you?" puzzled Samyuktha "Yeah..thank you for sending Mayank in my life" said Prachi "I guess that was fate Prachi...I didn't send him..but it was a co-incidence that you happened to be my friend...err...aren't we friends"
"Yes..yes..now again don't make me cry..cried a lot since yesterday" said prachi with a smile.
"ha ha ok ok.." said Samyuktha.
"That's bad, you friends are having good time and forgot about me" said Mayank from behind.
Prachi looked back with surprise and became happy to see him there.
"Mayank, you wanted to ask one more thing to Prachi yesterday night right..why don't you ask that?" said Samyuktha looking at Mayank.
"May I madam?" asked Mayank looking at Prachi.
Mayank bent down on his knees and took out a small box from his pocket.
"Will you make tea for me early in the morning everyday , will you cook dinner for me every day, listen to my bak-bak everyday, sleep with me in my bed, ....be my better half for rest of my life" said Mayank showing the ring to her.
"Yes" said Prachi smiling but with tears " you guys are making me cry like anything".
"I hope you will not cry for rest of your life" said Mayank and hugged Prachi.
It was time Samyuktha to leave and she once again hugged and congratulated Prachi. Then congratulated Mayank and thanked him for everything.

"Happy Ending"

Judging by a person's VIRGINITY !? Are you !?!?!?

Hey...this post is copied from here :

“Are you pure?” asked the guy who came to see jyoti for marriage. “Pure????” jyoti couldn’t get his question. “Pure as in untouched?” he clarified. Jyoti now
understood what he wanted to ask. “What are you looking for a girl to marry or ghee?” she replied agitated by such a question. He was shocked at such a reply, but before he
could say anything. Jyoti continued, “Well you can say if there was an exam about ‘purity’ I wouldn’t top it!”

His family left. Next day he rang up jyoti's dad and told him that he cannot marry jyoti as she is a girl with low morals. Bang on! Welcome to the progressive India where
we claim to be modern people but still make Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to become a good wife. Today when we claim that women have an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!!

The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife. Why? Answer- just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going to spend his life with has been and will be only his “possession”.

If today a girl loses her virginity with a guy
she loves truly but the guy turns out to be a cheat then she is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND YOU these
being the most decent words I can pen down ,else there are a million more worse words in our mother tongue vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl? She
loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought she would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make him believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no answers I could get! I completely support the fact that we Indians should not give up on our morals and accept everything
that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can a biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide the level of her morals? I mean jyoti could have been a great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents chose,
maybe she had a bad past… But all that was seen was that she wasn’t pure! And I am forced to wonder that what would happen to those rape victims? Who would marry those girls? Moreover a girl from a sports background, has always been told by those orthodox distant relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in breakage of
the “moral wall”!! “ “Urggghhh ”, that’s what I have always thought after hearing that!! Yes, 
I am also a girl, an Indian girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is priceless, who has always dreamt of her “raajkumar” coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a girl
who belongs to the globalised world, interacts with the opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them and smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any thing for that reason! I just request you that next time you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your hunger of ego. When you look at a beautiful girl coming dressed in a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become a part of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of roses rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay down on a bed with white bed sheet because true love will make your marriage successful, her “purity” won’t.

Don't judge the sender, that person is just making a step forward to build a positive India.. So that we can proudly say we are proud to be Indians.. xU xQ!! 

The Sad Yet true things about MY COUNTRY

1. India is a country where on the streets, everyone seems to be in a hurry, but no one is ever on time 

2. Here people wear helmets to save their pockets, not life 

3. Being one in a million in India means that there are 1241 Indians just like you 

4. In Bangalore if you throw a stone, you hit a dog, or a software engineer and in Delhi it will b a dog or a CA 

5. If someone asks for a dirty cloth to clean something, you are in India 

6. In India, it’s okay to piss in public, but not kiss 

7. In India two things never leave you, your caste and your high school marks 

8.When it comes to taking a stand on world issues, India is like a girl giving mixed signals 

9. A country whose onions and tomatoes have more value than dollars 

10 .In India, there are two types of roads: Under Construction and Under Repair  !!!

am a Piscean :)

Here's what Being a Piscean means:

Mysterious and sensuous, the Pisces women are poetic, romantic and spiritual - with deep emotions. But, they may be fixed in their beliefs too. Often, their dreams are vivid and meaningful and not easy for practical and rational beings to understand. The Pisces females have an utmost need to loved and protected, and even the slightest negligence will hurt their feelings. Speaking of which, the Pisces women are not just moody, but also very sensitive. So one will have to be very careful while addressing them. Don't mistake them to be weak, though. When in hot water, the Pisces women may surprise you with their inner strength. Also, the Pisces women have a bad temper. Don't provoke them to bring their negative side to the fore. They can turn bitterly sarcastic, and recede away from you forever.

Brahminism

'Brahminism was the term that the anticaste movement preferred over "Hinduism." By Brahminism, they didn't mean Brahmins as a caste or a community. They meant the domino effect, what Ambedkar called the "infection of imitation," that the caste that first "enclosed" itself -- the Brahmins -- set off.The exponential decay of the radioactive atom of caste means that Brahminism is practised not just by the Brahmin against the Kshatriya or the Vaishya against the Shudra, or the Shudra against the Untouchable, but also by the Untouchable against the Unapproachable, the Unapproachable against the Unseeable. It means there is a quotient of Brahminism in everybody, regardless of which caste they belong to. It is the ultimate means of control in which the concept of pollution and purity and the perpetration of social as well as physical violence -- an inevitable part of administering an oppressive hierarchy -- is not just outsourced, but implanted in everybody's imagination, including those at the bottom of the hierarchy. It's like an elaborate enforcement network in which everybody polices everybody else. The Unapproachable polices the Unseeable; the Malas resent the Madigas; the Madigas turn upon the Dakkalis, who sit on the Rellis; the Vanniyars quarrel with the Paraiyars, who in turn could beat up the Arundhatiyars.'

I have read this somewhere but loved it too much that I couldnt help but post it.
So this is what being a brahmin went back in those days.
But what do they mean when they say "I am a brahmin" now???
Does it mean they are far superior? Does it mean they are born intelligent? Does that mean they are god's favourite?Does that mean you have to bow for them?

In Another book that defined the way in which castes were decided (Its a fiction though!!!) it was written:

Castes were based on the traits of a person.
A brahmin was one who had the ability to read and understand and were intelligent .
A kshatriya was the one who had the skill and ability to fight in a battle field .
Similary a shudra was the one who would clean all the dirt,dust and would keep the city clean.
Shudras were left out and werent allowed to join the remaining because since they worked with all the garbage and dirt of the city they had higher chances of being polluted and coming into contact with them might risk the health.
Yet shudras were respected as much as brahmins , kshatriyas.They might have been well divided into subcastes depending on the type of field they speicalized.

That made perfect sense as the traits might have been passed on genetically too.

But the main thing missing now-a-days is "Respect".
Resspect for the other caste,Tolerance towards their habits and behaviour and not letting Casteism dominate the way we view other people.Why cant we follow the footsteps of our ancestors and respect each other rather than being biased towards the Caste System!!!

My childhood Memories

Childhood…..

The cherishable phase in a man’s life….

Everyone one will be having a few of their childhood memories no matter where they reach and how they are ………..

I am also one among them.

I clearly remember a phase where I had all the innocence in the world.

I am the darling of my parents.An obedient and cute kid.

I used to be a calm and silent girl .

I might be around six years at that time.I used to go to school punctually everyday and my mom used to wave me tata

On the way there used to be an aunty (My dad’s friend’s wife) who used to be an amazing cook.She used to bake all the yummy stuff for me and would be waiting for me .I would then forget all about school and would happily go with her to her home and enjoy till evening.I don’t remember how many days I did it.Once its evening,I used to go home like nothing happened.My mom never doubted me.

 One day suddenly my mom visited my school and found out that I haven’t turned in that day.She informed my dad and they were  worried.It was a small village and my mom started searching everywhere.She somehow accidentally came to that aunt’s place and found me.

I still shiver remembering that day ;)

I got nice beatings for my lil adventure.

That was the memory I cherish the most  as I used to have such delicious food …..My mouth still waters just at the thought.

I was a sincere girl.Back from school,I would finish my homework,fresh up and then would go to play till 6.That order everyday.Once a bluemoon,I used to play too long and invited the punishments from my mom.I used to love tamarind and still love anything sour...

During summer,I used to go to this home where there was a lovely girl.she used to treat me like a sister.Their family adored mine and my mom had no issues to send me over there.Me n that akka(Sister in telugu) used to cut raw mangoes and sprinkle pepper,redchilli and salt.And lo!!! The best taste would be waiting….I don’t know what spices they actually used but it didn’t bother me at that age.

My akka had a brother.I remember him as someone with hair all over the body and a moustache and he used to buy me loads of chocolates.They were much elder to me.May be 14 to 20 years elder. I was the doll in the neighbourhood with all the good manners.Thanks to  my mom.

Almost every other day I used to be at their home…eating ….and the natural mehendi they used to prepare for my tiny little hands with jaggery,tea powder and what not I remember.They had this rooftop which you can climb onto through a ladder and  akka’s mom would prepare  snacks for us…   And such days sometimes I would climb on with that anna(Brother ) and would enjoy the breeze.

As I seemed to enjoye the breeze,that guy whom I called anna would enjoy by touching me dirtily…He used to touch me and do horrible stuff.But I never understood all that and started disliking him.I might have puked sometimes too.It all remains at the bottom of my heart like a dream...I didn’t know the meaning of private parts nor did I hear about child abuse.I couldn’t understand yet hated that. I didn’t tell my mom.I didn’t tell anyone that time.Nor did I tell anyone till now.

But sometimes still in  my dreams I get that horrid picture and wake up all scared.It happens to me mainly when am low.This till date remains the main part of my childhood as it erased all my happy memories.I was very happy to get away from that place.But I somehow couldn’t  yet tell anyone that this goes on for like I don’t know till when.I wish I could remember his face,meet him and tell him what a disgusting person he is!!! I am thankful yet coz this made me stronger somehow !!My perspective towards life changed.   But I cant change the fact that it haunts me too....

Apart from this I had few nice moments to hold on to protect myself from that disturbing memory....The principal of my school,my class teacher,our neighbours.....The first of the sweet,nice and so mannered people I was to meet......I cant remember their faces..but I kinda remember the time spent with each one of them...It is etched in my memory as a fairy tale...They all still adore me and treat me like the same little doll. We often meet and they wonder every other time as to how much I have grown up.The love they used to shower is something that I hold on and thats where I have learnt to spread love.And thats the reminiscence of my childhood.

P.S: Please educate your kids about their body and teach them to live without anything holding them back.
       Never try to silence a kid.A kid's voice is genuine and should be heard .

       Please cherish the best moments and let go of the bad ones.They might teach you something if you are willing to let them out of your mind.

A Secret Wish I have for every married Woman Out there

My Secret wish List....By Preeti Shenoy.
I would like to thank her for writing such a book.Its beautiful yet too bold sometimes.Its true to an extent!! By true I mean that few things that are written in the book I have seen and experienced them.
              The life of a typical Indian girl:
                        She is born.And that itself is recieved differently.Few celebrate and rejoice while few curse the mother and consider themselves so unlucky. (FYI I feel like punching such jerks ) Then her struggle starts.Lets name our girls Anuhya and Anjali.Anuhya is the one whose birth is celebrated and Anjali is the one who is considered extra burden for her family.
                                                 Anuhya is the apple of her dad's eye.She was sent to a very nice school and college.She was told to focus on her education and not to think of anything else.She finished her graduation and got a decent job.Though her parents didnt ask her to ,she wanted to be independent and wanted to work.Her wish was granted.After a year or so,they started searching a decent guy for her.She got married into a nice family

What Being rich Means !!!

How True!!!

I have always felt that richness is not about money or posessions .But after watching this The feeling just grew Stronger.
                   There was a young man who truly cared for others.He was a part time priest and a teacher by profession.He came from a middle class family where he had to support his family members settle down.He was very punctual and loyal.Then he got married to a young girl who was oblivious of all the things she has to face.One look at her and he understood how innocent and young she is.But his hands were tied up to say anything.She came into the family and went through all the hardest phases without breaking down.They were perfect for each other.Time flew by.By the time his siblings had settled well and he moved out with her,they already had  kids.
                      The house was always filled with laughter and joy.He was a charmer and not ony his kids but the kids around also loved him.She was a happy house wife.They lived in a small beach town in their own home ,nearby to a temple.One warm day,he took her out and asked her how she is feeling.All she could do was smile.Her happiness was apparent.Then he told her that he wanted her to do something for him and for herself.She said she would try to do it no matter what.And after he told her what he wanted her to do, she was just shocked.It was impossible for her to do it with three kids running around and all the household work.He silently promised himself that he would help her do it no matter what.

                        Kids were growing up .He was a government teacher.And he always gave her only one part of his salary to manage all the expenses.Remaining part she never knew what happened nor did she think of asking.She considered him a  god.He never told her either.It was just like they understood even the silence.He never spent money on luxuries which pissed of his teenage sons and they were always fighting,sulking about what happens to the money and how much they have in bank and all such matters.But he chose to take it all and remained calm.It hurted her to see him being insulted by his own kids but she couldnt say anything to anyone.
                        Now the three gentlemen,who grew up to be nice yet strong people got married and settled down in a city far from home.It was just him and her in their own home.They had the best time of their life.They used to wake up early.Sit for sometime watching the beautiful sunrise.Later she would get him coffee and he will read to her the newspaper.There was this old model easychair and a small chair.He used to sit on the easychair and she would listen to him sitting on the small chair.They will have breakfast together.Then he would go to temple and she would start cleaning the home and preparing lunch.Once he's back from temple,they willl have lunch together.Later after a nap both of them would go for a walk in the beach.Then they will talk about their three sons,one lovely daughter of her sister whom they were attached to more than their sons and he would then sing songs,ask her puzzles and make her laugh.So happy they were together.

              Every summer,their house would be full of kids waiting to play,talk,and just stay with grandpa.He was one awesome guy.At that stage he invested in a private bank lot of money.Hard-Earned money.And he told her that she can take it anytime she wants to.It was a joint account.She was never bothered about anything.Even though he was old,the love he carried and the gentleness in him were ten times to what she knew.All the people in that small town respected the couple.They would visit the city once a while.But the little town was their home and they longed to come back.
                   After few years,one sad day,he passed away in his sleep.She was dumb for all the world she knew till then was him.Just him and her sons.Sons had wives and they were not compatible.Their daughter stood by her and helped her overcome the grief.Then another news just struck her like lightning.The bank he invested in is a bogus one.She had become so strong in his company that she didnt even notice how boldly she took it all.All she had was his monthly pension money and their home.
                      After few months,two gentlemen visited her.They introduced themselves as the bank manager's sons and told her that their father wanted to give her back the money her husband deposited.She was so surprised and asked them whether they are giving everyone's money back.They told her that their father couldnt live knowing that he cheated the teacher .So they are giving only her.She was dumb again.They gave her the money and left.
                      After a week or so,one day a bunch of school kids and teenagers visited her and thanked her for all the things teacher did for them.He used to pay their fees and teach them after school.They were all poor kids and orphans in the next village.The next day,while she was sitting in the beach,an old lady approached her thanking her on behalf of the teacher.He had helped her marry off her daughter.And day after day she met so many people he had helped.
                     And the one thing he asked her to do those many years back.He asked her to read again.To finish the exams.He stood by her.He  helped her with all the chores and personally sat with her while exams were near.She was now a literate.More than that she is now a blessed human being.
                         She is so thankful that he was there with her and is surprised and proud of all the good work he did with such secrecy.Not once did he tell her that he did something good.
               It hurts her that she cant live with her kids or grandchildren but more than that,She doesnt want to leave the place they lived together.Every month,one son will visit her for a week.She sometimes travels to the city but soon comes back home.
                   

It surprises and thrills me how one can be so selfless and how one can be so pious.He was a great father.He taught his kids all the values.He was an awesome and lovely grandpa and more than that the best betterhalf.He is an ideal human being just like the lord he worshipped.
                                         
                                          If everyone were like him.Not even like him.Only if we were 2% of what he is then our world would definitely be a much better place.The world will be full of hope,kindness and happiness.
                     He did all he could.He helped those who needed help.But he didnt neglect his responsibilities either.He just controlled his luxuries a bit and did his bit.He even considered that a responsibility.How many of us can do it!!!Let alone do it,how do we define richness!?

                         Most of us define richness as the  material posession and bank balance one has.People are respected and considered depending on how much they earn.how much they have.Arent we foolish!! Is that being rich all about.What will we do being rich!! Ok.We will secure the future we are unaware of.But apart from that,how much do we really think about others?! Just a minute of contemplation about whom we can help within our limitations.I am sure each one of us can help atleast one more human being.And after helping out,the satisfaction we get is priceless.Happiness is the only thing that doubles when shared.
                                      Giving money to someone isnt the only way to help.Spending a little time with others who need it might just be a life saver for them.Many people in our country are left alone.Just making them feel that they too have a friend can make a lot of difference.But Please dont behave like few guys who help just to get some credit.Being selfless for even few moments makes us better human beings.Its ok if you still do it for credit though if you are spreading a smile. :P

To give and To Share .Thats the purpose of life.

P.S: I know both of them and I adore them a lot.
       I am not a member of any spiritual centres nor do I believe in spirituality.
       But I believe that it takes little to be rich at heart.
       I have questioned my conscience while writing this and I know am helping out in my own way.